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National Coming Out Day

I talk a lot about the importance of being Out and loud. Coming out so late in life has felt like starting over, catching up, and in some ways, falling short.

My inner world was always gay, always progressive, always subversive and a little weird. I covered all that up and denied it for 3 decades. Unlearning all the heteronormative brainwashing takes time and patience. It has involved sifting through a lot of things ("Am I a chapstick lesbian? A femme lesbian? What the heck is cottage core?") and figuring myself out. 

It's easy for a late in life queer to wish they had known sooner. I can quickly build up in my head this narrative about being out in high school and actually having the nerve to ask out my female crush; we date for 4 years, go to prom together, separate for college, then find our way back to one another in our 20's, happily ever after. But I've learned from talking to my fellow queers that everyone's journey is different and even the ones who came out in their teen years didn't have it all figured out by graduation. 

So I give myself grace and I remind myself I'm not falling behind or running late (yes I heard that in Leslie Odom Jr.'s voice). 

But I also encourage visibility, equality, and your presence as well as mine in this world. There is so much discrimination and misunderstanding, and so many queer people have had to stay closeted because coming out would put them in danger. For those who can't come out, I want to be visible, to encourage them to stay safe and have hope. For those who are looking for the courage to come out, I want to say, it gets better. If you have the ability to come out, it can be a relief to live authentically and explore what it means to be openly queer. It's not without its challenges, and it's definitely a journey rather than a destination, but y'all I am glad I did it. 

Happy National Coming Out Day, and as always, if you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

~TLE 10.11.23

Happy Pride '23

🏳️‍🌈 This has been my 3rd Pride, and every year I love it more. This year I made new friends, advocated for our community, attended more Pride events, and just tried to be as gay as possible 💁🏻‍♀️🌈 


🏳️‍🌈 It’s the last day of Pride Month, and “Gay Freedom” is something we absolutely must possess. The world needs the full spectrum of light and color that our love, creativity and presence provide. 


🏳️‍🌈 When you vote, remember me. With lawmakers and courts bent on taking away what little rights we have earned, remember at election time that Conservatives despise my freedom. 


🏳️‍🌈 In honor of our ability to celebrate, may we carry the energy of Pride forward into the rest of the year. In memory of those that have gone before us, like Gilbert Baker (designer of the original Pride flag), and ahead of those who follow after, may we continue to fight: for freedom, for love, and for life. And for the chance to say, every June….


🏳️‍🌈 Happy Pride 🏳️‍🌈

~TLE 7.29.23

The Origins of Pride

It wasn’t the first riot or the first attempt by LGBTQ people to push back against police brutality, discrimination, & bigotry, but the uprising at the Stonewall Inn is a turning point in the movement toward rights for our community. The first pride parade was held the following year on the anniversary—this is why June is Pride Month. It’s not because we’re pushing our gay agenda down anyone’s throat, & it’s not so we can recruit children (& if you’re repeating that narrative, you’re showing the world how little you think for yourself). We celebrate Pride because we want to live our lives free from the fear of losing what few rights we have gained. We celebrate Pride because we don’t yet live in a world that encourages authenticity. We celebrate Pride to give hope to all people, no matter who you are. ~TLE 7.5.23

 Can you dare to imagine your life being what you really want it to be?